Monday, July 02, 2012

Though Anderson Cooper doesn't seem to think he was ever in the closet, he does seem happy to finally be out

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"It’s become clear to me that by remaining silent on certain aspects of my personal life for so long, I have given some the mistaken impression that I am trying to hide something -- something that makes me uncomfortable, ashamed or even afraid. This is distressing because it is simply not true."

by Ken

Andrew Sullivan explained this morning in a Daily Beast post, "Anderson Cooper: 'The Fact Is, I'm Gay,'" that that he asked his friend of two decades, Anderson Cooper, to comment on Entertainment Weekly's cover story last week, "The New Art of Coming Out," on what Andrew characterizes as the "emerging trend" of "gay people in public life who come out in a much more restrained and matter-of-fact way than in the past." Andrew writes:
In many ways, it's a great development: we're evolved enough not to be gob-smacked when we find out someone's gay. But it does matter nonetheless, it seems to me, that this is on the record. We still have pastors calling for the death of gay people, bullying incidents and suicides among gay kids, and one major political party dedicated to ending the basic civil right to marry the person you love. So these "non-events" are still also events of a kind; and they matter. The visibility of gay people is one of the core means for our equality.

Andrew explains that the e-reply he got from Cooper included permission to post it.
Andrew, as you know, the issue you raise is one that I've thought about for years. Even though my job puts me in the public eye, I have tried to maintain some level of privacy in my life. Part of that has been for purely personal reasons. I think most people want some privacy for themselves and the people they are close to.

But I've also wanted to retain some privacy for professional reasons. Since I started as a reporter in war zones 20 years ago, I've often found myself in some very dangerous places. For my safety and the safety of those I work with, I try to blend in as much as possible, and prefer to stick to my job of telling other people’s stories, and not my own. I have found that sometimes the less an interview subject knows about me, the better I can safely and effectively do my job as a journalist.

I've always believed that who a reporter votes for, what religion they are, who they love, should not be something they have to discuss publicly. As long as a journalist shows fairness and honesty in his or her work, their private life shouldn't matter. I’ve stuck to those principles for my entire professional career, even when I’ve been directly asked “the gay question,” which happens occasionally. I did not address my sexual orientation in the memoir I wrote several years ago because it was a book focused on war, disasters, loss and survival. I didn't set out to write about other aspects of my life.

Recently, however, I’ve begun to consider whether the unintended outcomes of maintaining my privacy outweigh personal and professional principle. It’s become clear to me that by remaining silent on certain aspects of my personal life for so long, I have given some the mistaken impression that I am trying to hide something -- something that makes me uncomfortable, ashamed or even afraid. This is distressing because it is simply not true.

I’ve also been reminded recently that while as a society we are moving toward greater inclusion and equality for all people, the tide of history only advances when people make themselves fully visible. There continue to be far too many incidences of bullying of young people, as well as discrimination and violence against people of all ages, based on their sexual orientation, and I believe there is value in making clear where I stand.

The fact is, I'm gay, always have been, always will be, and I couldn’t be any more happy, comfortable with myself, and proud.

I have always been very open and honest about this part of my life with my friends, my family, and my colleagues. In a perfect world, I don't think it's anyone else's business, but I do think there is value in standing up and being counted. I’m not an activist, but I am a human being and I don't give that up by being a journalist.

Since my early days as a reporter, I have worked hard to accurately and fairly portray gay and lesbian people in the media - and to fairly and accurately portray those who for whatever reason disapprove of them. It is not part of my job to push an agenda, but rather to be relentlessly honest in everything I see, say and do. I’ve never wanted to be any kind of reporter other than a good one, and I do not desire to promote any cause other than the truth.

Being a journalist, traveling to remote places, trying to understand people from all walks of life, telling their stories, has been the greatest joy of my professional career, and I hope to continue doing it for a long time to come. But while I feel very blessed to have had so many opportunities as a journalist, I am also blessed far beyond having a great career.

I love, and I am loved.

In my opinion, the ability to love another person is one of God’s greatest gifts, and I thank God every day for enabling me to give and share love with the people in my life. I appreciate your asking me to weigh in on this, and I would be happy for you to share my thoughts with your readers. I still consider myself a reserved person and I hope this doesn’t mean an end to a small amount of personal space. But I do think visibility is important, more important than preserving my reporter’s shield of privacy.

APOLOGIES FOR THE BLATANT OBVIOUSNESS
OF THESE SIMPLE OBSERVATIONS


(1) Anyone who's caught by surprise just hasn't been paying attention.

(2) Once upon a time, a fellow in AC's position would have spent a certain portion of every day contemplating the fatal blow to his career if/when his "secret" should become a matter of official public knowledge. Does anyone foresee AC's career being negatively impacted? He has carved out that career and developed his fan base, made up overwhelmingly of people who like him, who really like him.

(3) Oh, it's conceivable that somewhere down the line some benighted network exec or assignment editor will note: "We can't forget that he's you know . . ." But then, those people are capable of making a federal case of all sorts of "objectionable" qualities almost as preposterous. They are apt to point out that they have viewers who fall into the strange category we visited in (1).

(4) In a better world, AC is perfectly correct that his sexual preference would be nobody's business but his own.

(5) We live, alas, in this world, not that hypothetical better one, and this step that AC has taken matters. Can anyone seriously dispute that not only he but people of all sexual orientations to whom his name matters are better off now that he has taken this step?

Someone might suggest one category of exception: confirmed bigots who really and truly didn't know, and are now waxing wroth with righteous indignation. I would argue that even they, or especially they, are the biggest winners of all. After all, does anything make them feel more, um, at peace with the universe than waxing wroth with righteous indignation? Heck, it seems almost the least we can do for the dears.

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At 6:33 PM, Blogger ohnooooo! said...

I think the thing is that nowadays nobody really cares if someone is gay or not. ( or at least anyone who's enlightened) I mean, it's his life and why should the rest of us care... I think he's probably just happy that he 'came out' even tho it's something the rest of the universe already figured out, lol!

 
At 6:47 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Good looking out Anderson! We will love you no matter what! You are the best! God bless!

 
At 9:57 PM, Anonymous me said...

Next up, Senator Chinless?

 
At 3:46 AM, Anonymous keyless entry said...

I totally agree with you ohnooooo! So what if he's gay? Let him be, it's his life not yours. That's where he is happy and comfortable. Respect is the key.

 
At 8:20 AM, Blogger KenInNY said...

My point exactly: Anderson Cooper's audience both respects and genuinely likes him, and has no reason to feel any less comfortable with him than it did the day before yesterday.

I think back to the recent craziness when the frothing Half-Dozen Alleged Moms thought they could throw a scare into Target for making Ellen DeGeneres a spokesperson -- blithely unaware that Ellen's fans (obviously including Target!) don't give a damn about her sexual orientation. It's just part of who she is, and they seem pretty happy with who she is.

It's worth remembering, though, how hard it was for her to come out, and how big a career hit -- as well as a personal trauma -- it really was for her in those first years. If you want a measure of how much and how fast the world can change, consider that that was only 1997! And where Ellen's business is wholly entertainment, Anderson C is in the "news" wing of showbiz, and still I see no reason to think coming out is going to affect his career at all.

Again, he is who he's always been, and there's no reason for any of his fans to think any differently about him. And again, this seems to me one story where there are only winners.

Cheers,
Ken

 

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